Conservative Parents - Staying Overnight

My parents have always been very conservative.

When I was in secondary school, from the conversation I had with my friends, I knew they were more conservative/traditional than other parents. Not allowing us to go out with friends that they don't know, must be home before dinner, cannot have boyfriends until you finish education, etc.

The most extreme measure my mum took was to track on the phone calls we had. If the call lasted more than 15 mins or if it is a guy that calls, my mum will be loitering outside our rooms trying to get a glimpse of our conversation or picking up the other line and hoping we do not realise (which we always do and we will have to ask her to put down). This can be hilarous at times as the topic of my parents can be the talk highlight with friends as most of them think my parents behaviour is "interesting".

I hadn't once thought that my parents behaviour is irritating maybe i am already accustomed to them poking their nose into everyone's business or because I do not have many secrets kept from my parents. Even though my parents discourage having relationship at young age, I still share with my mum about the crushes I had on guys in school.

To me the most unforgettable event is when Stevie came to our house for the first time. Poor Steve, as he is the first guy I brought home and also I haven't finish my education, the whole episode was quite intense. During the whole time he was in my house, my mum just glared at him without a word. My dad tried to be friendly and asked him the same questions over and over again. And Poor Stevie was like a statue the whole time not daring to move an inch. Well, it's not as if i didn't warn him but he insisted meeting the parents is very important and after resisting for 6 months I relented and agreed.

Well, as we grow older, the "rules" are unspoken but we knew very well the boundaries we had. One of the "rules" was that staying overnight is not allowed. I knew that after the Solemnisation this "rule" will still stand as my parents thinks that only after the traditional tea ceremony then we are considered married. Even after the somenisation my mum is still asking when are we getting married (which refers to the tea ceremony).

Well, last week was the first time i tried to push my luck. Stevie was staying over on Thursday and Friday and each time he announce to his mum that he will be staying over, I cannot help but notice a tint of disappointment on her face. So on Saturday night, I called my dad and told him i would be staying over at Steve instead. My dad immediately in the state of panic, asking for reason, persuading me to go home, etc. Once he knew he cannot convince me, he passed the phone to my mum thinking that he will be getting the support. Surprisingly, my mum just acknowledges and hang up without any question ask. I can just imagine my dad's desperate face.

From my dad's reaction, I knew that I cannot be doing this too often.